The Nature Of Women
In Genesis 3:16 we find the judgment of woman, by God:
To the woman He said,
“I will greatly multiply
Your pain in childbirth,
In pain you will bring forth children;
Yet your desire will be for your husband,
And he will rule over you.”
This passage has been the subject of much argument within the church, to the point that the translation is being changed. It’s pretty straightforward until you get to the word that’s translated as “desire.” Before we get to the real problem, let’s look at the word itself, which is only used three times in all of Scripture. The first is in the passage quoted above, the second is in Genesis 4:7
If you do well, will not your countenance be lifted up? And if you do not do well, sin is crouching at the door; and its desire is for you, but you must master it.”
Obviously, in that passage the meaning of the word desire is a desire to control or to conquer. The only other use of the word is in the Song of Solomon 7:10, in which the word desire is clearly used to mean sexual desire.
“I am my beloved’s, and his desire is for me.
So, in Genesis 3:16, what does that word “desire” mean?
The Fundamental Assumption Is The Problem
You can guess what happened, right? Everybody staked out a position on the word desire as meaning either a desire to control or a sexual desire because the fundamental assumption is the word has ONLY ONE MEANING. This is incorrect in this case because this isn’t an either-or choice. The observed nature of women demonstrates that the definition is both, as we shall see.
The object of woman’s desire is for her man and “man” is defined as one who will “rule, have dominion, reign over you”.
Your desire shall be for [the man who rules over you]. The word translated as “rule over” is the Hebrew word mashal (Strong’s 4910), which is a verb. An active verb. What about the woman who has a man who does not rule over her? Is her desire for him? What about the woman who does not have a man? Does she have no desire for men?
[A woman’s] desire shall be for [the man who is fit to rule over her].
This puts it into an easy-to-understand form and allows us to go back and look at the word desire again, which raises the critical question: How does the woman know the man is fit to rule over her?
Every woman has an attraction point and her personal preferences are irrelevant because at some point she will be attracted to a man. What happens next? First, the woman wants to confirm the man’s fitness so she tests him. These tests are commonly known as “shit tests” or “fitness tests.” If she can conquer/control him he fails the test. If he blows through her tests and demonstrates his fitness to rule her, then her desire to conquer him is satisfied (temporarily) and her desire becomes sexual in nature.
- Interest –> Man is Tested –> Man’s Fitness Proved –> Attraction
- Interest –> Man is Tested –> Man Fails Tests –> All Attraction Dies
Fitness testing is ongoing. No matter how long the relationship lasts, there will always be fitness testing because the woman needs to know the man still has what it takes. Think of it as checking boundaries. One of the foundational Red Pill truths is all women really are like that. Your mother, your sister, your girlfriend or your wife. AWALT. Why? Because God said so. Don’t believe it? Go argue with Him.
What happens when a woman meets a man who is more fit to rule than her husband? That depends on whether her husband is meeting her needs and we’ll talk about that in a bit.
It has only been since 1960 that unrestrained hypergamy has been possible and it has only been apparent in the past few decades. Prior to that it was assumed by the tradition of long-held belief that women were not like that because there were numerous social restrictions and cultural mores that restrained women’s hypergamy. This is possibly the first time in all of history in which unrestrained hypergamy has become apparent to all, due to women’s ability to provide provisioning for themselves and control their fertility.
The Dark Side Of Hypergamy
What happens when the man does not pass her fitness tests? In the beginning, what little attraction she might have had for him dries up and dies on the spot. In an existing relationship if he lets himself lose control and starts failing her tests she will become frustrated and test him all the harder, hoping he can pass her tests. She is looking for her ruler and he’s not showing up. If he continually fails her tests she will eventually seethe with contempt for him. At this point the relationship is doomed.
When she encounters a man who displays the dominance her husband lacks, her desire will shift to that man regardless of the past, regardless of her supposed commitment and without regard for anyone’s feelings. That is the nature of hypergamy. In fact, unless the woman is so completely focused on her man (meaning he is the right man) that she’s completely uninterested in any other man, then under the right conditions she will cheat. So many men have been lied to all their lives about women that encountering the true nature of women blows their mind. There is a fantasy that says a woman needs time, she needs a relationship, she needs to be “in love” or she needs to feel secure before having sex. No. The truth is that it comes down to a simple formula:
The right man at the right time in the right place with the right line.
That’s all it takes. The right man is a man she finds highly attractive, far more attractive than the man she is with. The right place and the right time subjectively refer to her accountability. The right line is the one that passes her tests and indicates he is attracted to her. This is a matrix and each point is subjective depending on the values of the other points. For the man who is insanely attractive to her, she will take chances and risk getting caught. For less attractive men she has to have the time and place where she can achieve what she wants with him. She still has desires, just not enough to overcome all caution.
Let’s say she’s on a business trip out of town to a convention, staying in the convention center hotel. She’s away from home and everyone who knows her and could recognize her. Staying in a hotel room, no-one will know (or care) who she gets in bed with. No-one is keeping tabs on her and indeed, no-one can. In such a situation the man does not need to be all that attractive, just more attractive than what she already has. Add a little alcohol and inhibitions drop. So do the panties.
Anyone who thinks women don’t understand this is an idiot. Some women bind themselves with rules and boundaries in order to guard themselves because they know what they are really like, but such women are rare. Feminism works hard to convince women they should put themselves in positions where their hypergamy can wreak havoc. Women who restrain themselves and set boundaries are extremely rare.
I am convinced some women defend their lack of attraction to their husband by making themselves gross because they do not want to be tempted by an attractive man and thereby betray their husband and family. However, for every woman like that there are likely dozens of women who are not attracted to their husband and refuse to do the work of maintaining their attractiveness because they doesn’t think he deserves it. The number of women who dramatically lose weight and become more attractive following a divorce tends to prove it was voluntary on her part to become gross in the first place.
Again, the right man at the right time in the right place with the right line. That’s all it takes to trigger the hypergamy. Nothing else will matter because hypergamy doesn’t care. Relationship, marriage, kids, good reputation, friendships, none of it matters because hypergamy doesn’t care. And yes, all women are like that. The wisest man who ever lived had this to say on the subject (Ecclesiastes 7:28):
while I was still searching but not finding– I found one upright man among a thousand, but not one upright woman among them all.
All women are like that because God said so. Rollo Tomassi’s post “Hypergamy Doesn’t Care” illustrates this wonderfully:
- Hypergamy doesn’t care about yesterday, only about today and tomorrow.
- Hypergamy doesn’t care how great a Father you are to your kids.
- Hypergamy doesn’t care about God or hell.
- Hypergamy doesn’t care if you don’t understand what hypergamy is.
- Hypergamy doesn’t care if you win the nobel peace prize, cure cancer, and put an end world hunger.
- Hypergamy doesn’t care how ‘supportive’ you’ve always been of her decisions or if you identify as a ‘male feminist’.
- Hypergamy doesn’t care about the sincerity of your religious convictions or aspirations of high purpose.
- Hypergamy doesn’t care about those words that were said at your wedding.
- Hypergamy doesn’t care about how you funded her going back to college to find a more rewarding career.
- Hypergamy doesn’t care how great a guy you are for adopting the children she had with other men.
- Hypergamy doesn’t care about you forgiving her “youthful indiscretions.”
- Hypergamy doesn’t care about consequences.
- Hypergamy doesn’t care about your magnanimity in assuming responsibility for her student loans and credit card debt after you’re married.
- Hypergamy doesn’t care if “he was your best friend.”
- Hypergamy doesn’t care about bringing her coffee in bed or how great a cook you are.
- Hypergamy doesn´t care about your effort, it cares only about the results.
- Hypergamy doesn’t care about how well you do your part of the household chores.
- Hypergamy doesn’t care about how much her family or friends like you.
- Hypergamy doesn’t care if you think you’re a “Good” guy or about how convincing your argument is for your sense of honor.
- Hypergamy doesn’t care whether the children are biologically yours or not.
- Hypergamy doesn’t care if “she was drunk, he was cute, and one thing led to another,..”
- Hypergamy doesn’t care how sweet, funny or intellectual you are.
- Hypergamy doesn’t care if you “never saw it coming.”
Hypergamy is the nature of women because God caused it to be this way. Anyone who opens their eyes and looks around can see that becoming a Christian doesn’t make God’s judgement on women go away any more than it makes a banged up slut suddenly becomes a virgin again. It is wise to understand the nature of women before making a commitment because the second biggest commitment you can possibly make is choosing a wife (the biggest is choosing to commit yourself to the Lord). Proverbs 18:22 says:
He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.
Scripture also contains many warnings about women, such as this from Proverbs 25:24.
It is better to live in a corner of the roof than in a house shared with a contentious woman.
And a more ominous one from Proverbs 30:20…
This is the way of an adulterous woman:
She eats and wipes her mouth,
And says, “I have done no wrong.”
Because hypergamy doesn’t care. “I have done no wrong” sums it up nicely.
A woman’s desire is for a man who is fit to rule her, a man who rules over her. That is the essence of hypergamy and it behooves men to understand that. Men, be fit to rule.